Worry is not your best friend

By KATE WALSH SOUCHERAY – Gazette Columnist

It seems that worry often becomes like a good friend, a friend who is always there when we need them and provides comfort in times of stress. The problem with this good friend is that it is deceptive and does not give us the whole story of its friendship. In reality, worry is like a very bad friend who sits with us and wrings its hands in fear as it reminds us of all the terrible things that could happen and it assures us that those things are very likely to occur. In fact, worry as a bad friend becomes like a second skin and we don’t know how to shed it for fear we’ll be unprepared for real life.

This sounds pretty dire, but the deep and awful fear that worry engenders in us is what actually continues to feed the worry. It can seem like we become captives to it, as if there is no escape from its bondage. But there is a way to break away from this deep, fearful place that seems to grow in us with the more we worry. We can try to step away from it and look at the situation more objectively. We can also find someone who will give us perspective on the focus of our thinking and help us see the situation from all sides. We can also offer a prayer and ask God to be with us in our anxiousness and to calm us.

Building on all three suggestions is often helpful in assisting us to see the situation more positively. As we do so, we are more able to remain engaged in our everyday life and realize that things probably will work out for the best, and very likely in everyone’s favor.

Kate Walsh Soucheray is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Stillwater. She works at Christian Heart Counseling at 275 Third Street South and can be reached at [email protected] or 651-439-2059 ext. 718.